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Soul
to Soul
You always have a choice. No matter how debilitating the circumstance
or how angry you are at the circumstance - you can choose your thoughts.
If you experience the loss of a loved one, career disappointment or
even solitary prison confinement - you have the opportunity to lessen
the burden by careful selection of your thoughts.
But
how do you choose beneficial thoughts when your circumstances are pulling
you under emotionally? Emotions can engulf you like a riptide pulling
you farther away from your destination. They are the undercurrents often
running the show no matter what you think.
Emotional reactions can become habitual from years of adhering to fear-based
thoughts and beliefs. They can become addictive down to the cellular
level to where someone actually physically craves the feelings they
get from negative outbursts. More often than not, these habitual negative
outbursts stem from years of not taking care of oneself.
I know a very dear woman, approaching ninety, who has never learned
to ask for what she needs. She goes along with the wishes of others,
being nice and sweet, while under her breath she grows more and more
angry. Yet she won't speak her truth and ask for what she wants because
she doesn't want to hurt another's feelings or she wants to make it
easier for "them." So she stuffs her feelings down and feels taken advantage
of until the day when she can no longer hold it inside and the emotional
tirade explodes outwardly. Of-course it is now out of proportion to
the original events that led to it. Her anger is simply her frustration
of not knowing how to take care of herself in the present moment.
Her anger is also years of faulty thinking. She was probably taught
as a little girl that it is not nice to upset the apple cart with your
true desires. "Be polite, be a nice little girl, only speak when spoken
to, don't hurt other people's feelings," and on and on.
These powerful suggestions repeated over and over became her thoughts
and beliefs. And, of-course, her beliefs have created her behavior.
This is the hamster wheel ride most of us are on or have been on to
some degree.
Do you know a toxic person? Or are you concerned that sometimes you
are one? How do you deal with a toxic person? And how do you wash the
toxins out of your own system?
There
is a sure-fail formula for both dilemmas. Yet, even though it's simple
it's rarely applied. Why? It requires new thoughts and let's face it,
many of us are emotionally attached to our comfortable old ones.
But
here goes…
In
dealing with a toxic person the only way to help them is to see their
truth - their innate truth. This goes beyond books, theories and brainpower.
This goes beyond personality reaction.
Lift
yourself higher and go deeper to the level of your soul and meet them
there. Leave behind your own preoccupations, angry and hurt feelings.
Create a gentle interior, which is not moved by appearances but which
sees with an open heart. Now invite them in.
This
is the place where you can listen to their needs and pains. This is
the state of mind that aligns with the higher laws of the universe,
which operate with perfect harmony, light and love. This is who they
are. Stand firm in this truth for them when they're lost and can't do
it for themselves.
And when your own emotions seem to run and rule your life in a less
than positive way - choose a higher thought based on your innate truth.
Hold on to it with everything in you and let your life begin to conform
solely to harmony, light and love.
What will you choose? Being pulled every which way by your emotions
or will you choose to go higher and deeper and consciously connect at
the level of your soul - the most heartfelt place of all?
Choose
wisely and with the strength of your convictions rise above the drama
of the world. Become an integral part of it's healing - soul to
soul.
COACHING - Take conscious control of your life and live
creatively in the solution.
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2002-2010 Susan Ann Darley. All rights reserved.
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